But have you ever wanted something really bad and then realized that you don’t want it anymore after you got it?
Or maybe your dream come true really is amazing. But you thought your life would be perfect if you just had that one thing, and now you realize it isn’t. There are still problems to deal with.
Or you realize that it’s nice to get what you want, but not particularly amazing. What seemed glittery, fascinating, and full of illusion when it was just beyond your grasp just gives you the same feeling as looking at the furniture in your living room after you get it. (Who would have thought?)
Or maybe you realize that you don’t want what you thought you wanted after all. Maybe you were completely mistaken in your desire, and everything you dreamed it would be was just a fantasy. Maybe by getting what you thought you wanted, you ended up with something you truly don’t want at all.
That’s definitely happened to me before.
It makes the process of manifesting and setting goals all the more frustrating, doesn’t it?
As we dream up our desires and call them in, we have to wonder after a certain point:
How invested can I be in this dream when I don’t even really know how I’ll feel after I get it?
How do I know that it will serve me?
Now before we get to the solution of evaluating whether a dream serves you, let me just say that this doesn’t necessarily eliminate any of the above scenarios.
I’m starting to believe that it’s natural to go through a period of sadness or even depression after receiving something big that you’ve wanted. There’s the initial high and happiness, but then there’s a come down too. There’s a fear of losing what you’ve gained maybe, or a fear of your own power and success.
I know I’ve certainly experienced this. The first few times I experienced it, I thought there was something wrong, but I wasn’t sure what. I thought maybe I had chosen wrong initially or somehow lost my way after I got what I wanted. It never occurred to me that such feelings are normal until I heard other people start to talk about this. And I’m soooo glad there is a voice to this now, and we can learn to accept it rather than be surprised when it happens.
But that still leaves the question of: How do we ultimately know if our beliefs and desires serve us?
While researching information for my last blog post What are the Exact Steps for Visualizing Healing and Change? I came across a video on You Tube where Dr. Simonton explained how to tell if a belief and desire for a particular outcome truly serves you.
He explains that the best type of thinking to have is not necessarily positive, but healthy, balanced, and realistic.
A healthy outlook on manifesting or goal achievement would be: I don’t know if I’ll get what I want, but I believe that what I do makes a significant difference.
A typical positive statement such as “I’ll get what I want” is healthier than thinking “I’ll never get what I want”, but it may not be realistic or grounded in fact the way that healthy thinking is.
Here are 5 questions to ask yourself about a particular belief you have for something you would like to manifest.
If you answer yes to 3 or more of the 5 questions, then it is safe to say that your belief is healthy.
1) Is my belief based on fact?
2) Does my belief protect my life and my health?
3) Does my belief help me achieve my short and long term goals?
4) Does my belief help me resolve or avoid my most undesirable conflicts?
5) Does my belief help me to feel the way I want to feel?
Now take a moment and think about a belief you have that is in alignment with something you desire.
Based on these questions, what type of belief do you think it is:
Healthy, Positive, or Negative?
Does this change your perspective about your belief?
Leave a comment below and share with us if you have found these 5 questions helpful for reaffirming or changing a belief.
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